Question: how do you feel about hand-hugs or wing-hugs? I'm... not much of a physical person, but I'm fairly huggy. I usually offer them rather than assume people want them (at least unless I know them and am surer of their wishes), but I want to at least try and remember your preferences on them (which involves asking what, if anything, you'd be okay with first). I might forget, though, and a couple of times at that, but... I wish my memory was better. I so hear you on feeling like a bad friend because that's exactly how it makes me feel when I do it. I don't mean to forget things, especially not those that are important to people.

But that may be delving a little too far into the person I am there and I really just wanted to ask whether you'd be all right with either of those (or both or neither) because I don't want to cause you hurt or upset by accident like that. (I seem to offer them most readily for/to comfort, if that's important for you to know.)