Hmmm... it's a good question, and, I don't think I really have found an answer. It seems like it really depends on the person and relationship. If someone does not want more from me than I can give, I can read it in their actions. If they want more but they are trying to hide it to help me, I can also read it.

It's very difficult to not feel pressured when I know that someone's feeling is that they want more from me than I offer, and, it's easy to feel relaxed when I know they don't really want it.

And, you can't change what you want. So, it's difficult I guess...